I Didn’t Believe

I didn’t believe.
God help me, I didn’t believe.

It was a normal stressed out Wednesday. I was getting ready to go home for supper and take a break before services when the phone rang. I heard the words, “something’s happened and it’s bad.”

Before the evening was through, a professional counselor would tell us she believed Cole had been molested.

A handicapped young man.
Wheelchair bound.
Totally dependent.
Mentally deficient.
Molested (and worse) at the hands of a seventy year-old man.

On our part, there was tears, anger, hurt, and confusion.

How could this be?
How could such a thing happen?

And then my distorted view of reality kicked in.
No way.
Not possible.
There has to be some kind of mistake.
Cole is just confused. He has no idea of such things.

I didn’t believe.
God help me, I didn’t believe.

How could I?
How could I suspend disbelief and even think such a thing was possible?

I know these things happen all the time. I know that sick perversions warp, hurt, and do damage to a degree we may never fully comprehend.

All the time.
In situations and places where kids ought to be safe.

I know this intellectually, but emotionally, I still find it hard to wrap my mind around such a thing. It makes no sense to me at all.

I didn’t believe.
God help me, I didn’t believe.

While we had lots of lively arguments and discussions at my house during those early days of discovery and comprehension, I was still determined to support my son. The disbelief of others made me incredibly angry.

And yet,
I didn’t believe.
God help me, I didn’t believe.

Before you judge me, hear me out.
I didn’t believe, not because I distrusted or doubted my son.

I was a Daddy who loved his boy with all that I was or could ever hope to be. Still do.
I didn’t believe because I didn’t want to.
Would you?

Who could want to believe such a horrible thing? I would much rather Cole be confused or even dishonest than to be forced into believing such horrible things had happened to him under my watch.

I didn’t want to believe because I didn’t want it to be true.

But, God help us, it was true and I had to believe.

You need to believe too.
You need to believe that there are sick evil people in this world who prey on the helpless, the innocent.
You need to believe there are those who will go to any measure to infiltrate the lives of good people in order to fulfill their wicked desires.

When it does happen to someone you know, please be sure to understand that how you handle the knowledge can have a lasting effect.

I didn’t believe.
God help me, I didn’t believe.

But I believe now.
And that belief will ever be vigilant for the predators among us.

If you or your church are interested in a conversation along these lines, please let me know.

Les Ferguson, Jr.

5 thoughts on “I Didn’t Believe

  1. Les, I remember the day I got the call that you had lost your wife and son. I think we may have met you once, but Keith and I’s relationship with MBC got us the call that day to pray for you all. I remember feeling so sick, wondering how something so terrible could have happened to such a great family. Keith and I love your momma and your daddy (who married us), we’ve known Shawn and Julie for so long and Billy too. Although we don’t know you as well, I feel like I am getting to know you through this blog. I can’t even begin to contemplate what your family went through when you found this out and then that terrible day, but I want you to know that Keith and I continually pray for you and the boys that somehow God will get you back to where you want to be. I think this blog and your speaking different places will impact so many people and help those that don’t realize how often this happens to be more aware. God bless you and your family.

  2. So important to believe. A woman I know was continually sexually abused by her “own grandpa. Also,he had done the same to another granddaughter&grandson. The grandson killed himself. Grandpa was a “big deal”church goer. You notice I didnt say CHRISTIAN. Who knows how many children he has hurt.

  3. Les I know this probably isnt the best way to get a hold of you, however, it is the only way I know how. I have talked to our elders about getting some kind of policy and procedure for our members to follow in order to teach in our children’s and youth classes and to chaperone youth events. They seemed interested but I have no clue where to start in this process. I assume you have my email since it requests it from me, if not I can give it to you on here if needed.

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