Some days you survive; some days you thrive.

I am thankful to my friend Fred Walker for sharing those lines with me.

I say them quite often. And since joining this most horrible of clubs, I have had far too many opportunities to give that same thought to another parent who has lost a child. (Believe me, one opportunity is far too many)

Some days you survive; some daysyou thrive.

I am not sure what kind of day this is going to be.

I have guitar therapy today which is close to the top of my list of favorite things. I am not very good yet, but I see some progress, however slow. One day I am going to achieve a dream of being able to play and sing for Becki.

Who says you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? This old dog still has plenty of bark, plenty of bite, and some crazy real new dreams and goals.

I see some success coming in this new life of real estate we are embarking on. It’s not happening nearly as fast as I want it too, but another old friend, Mike Price, taught me another important saying: Yard by yard, it’s too hard; inch by inch, it’s a cinch.

Thanks Mike. I get it even if I don’t really like it.

Since I posted about lying yesterday… Today I got a message from a friend that basically said, It’s funny how, so often, those of us who are in difficult situations spend so much effort trying to keep others from feeling uncomfortable by lying and being fine. 

I am not going to lie. I am not looking for your sympathy. I am not playing you for attention. I am not looking to drive up blog traffic, etc.

But in the interests of authenticity, today, I hurt. I was looking for a picture and found one I was not prepared to see. It hit me like a sucker punch. I never saw it coming.

However, I am headed in to the office with my big boy pants on. I have spent the time I needed crying and screaming at God while I was in the shower.

But, today I hurt. The pain is little bit closer to the surface and it feels like just aother survival day; but I am going to strive to thrive!

Whatever your pain, whatever your game, look for the good in your life today. It is there! Cole would expect no less.

So let me end this little self-pity party with some words from King David I hate with all my heart and yet, I understand and appreciate far better than I want.

O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son!

14 thoughts on “#$#$%#$*&%^#@#$%!

  1. My two second vent on “lies” — If you don’t really care to hear my answer, don’t bother asking me how I’m doing. We’re pretty bad in our culture of asking “How are you today?” without really taking the time to listen to the answer. I’m guilty. But this adds to the culture of lies.

  2. I love you brother. I have a graduation picture taped to my desk that I see every day. I really miss that boy and his pink p_ _ _ _ _ _!

  3. Les,
    I am a “Newer” Real Estate Agent myself..2 1/2 years. I have done well, considering that I am NOT from this area (I’m married to the Air Force), and know no one. I decided and found a way to reach my “Niche” clients. I am a Homes for Heroes Realtor. I love it, and give back to the Heroes. It is a wonderful organization, and will bring lots of business to you.. but yes, you definitely have to “Market”. If Mississippi is not a “Rebate” state, then this would not work for you. Check out my website at http://www.DaytonsBestAgentSite.com and you can read more about it, and see some of my “Heroes”. It is a wonderful way to make a difference in the community at the same time. Let me know if you are interested in more info. I’d be glad to talk to you about it. 98% of my business is done with Heroes. I love it!

  4. This means that I am “Affiliated” with Homes for Heroes. I still work for my Broker.. I give back 25% of my commission to Heroes. 25% off of MY side of the listing fees if selling, and 25% of my commission goes towards their Closing Costs when they are buying. Of course your Broker has to approve..

  5. Brother, we want you to know that you and your family are in the continued prayer of so many. We have no answers, but we want you to know that your are loved and we thank our God for you.
    In Jesus
    Donald & Tamara Davis

    • Thank you very much. All prayers are appreciated! This is an entirely different ministry than I ever imagined, but I am trying to have a voice and help others too!

  6. When we answer “fine” to the question “How are you?” the word F I N E often means Fully In Need of Everything. Peace.

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